I've been trying something new to help me be less angry on the internet and I wanted to share it with you too.
If you try it too, I'd love to hear what you think.
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Hello and welcome to Social Media for Humans, the podcast that empowers you to do social differently. Your host, Alexis Bushnell, and her guests discuss their experience of social media as business owners users and ultimately humans. With insights and advice to help you find an effective and ethical strategy that works for you. Grab yourself a drink and join the conversation.Alexis:
Hi hello hi, I'm Alexis, my pronouns are she her, this is another little tip episode of the Social Media for Humans podcast. Today I actually want to chat a little bit about something I'm trying to make social media a little bit less negative and shouty and aggressive. Hang with me! So I'm gonna speak from my experience, if this resonates with you and you feel like you see a little bit of yourself in this, hi! I am somebody who embodies the "somebody's wrong on the internet" meme. I really struggle to see people post false information, misinformation, have some seriously questionable hot takes on social media. I am somebody who naturally has a tendency to want to engage with that. This might come as a surprise to some of you as so much of my content is about not engaging with that stuff, making social media more positive. This has been a work in progress for me, it remains a work in progress, I am not perfect. But it's also partly why I'm so passionate about it is because I am naturally that person. Like I am naturally the person who will see the Tweet and go "here's all the reasons you're wrong, here are the receipts." I will be doing the searching to find the evidence so that I can send it to somebody. I'm that girl and I'm not proud of it. So something I am trying at the moment is, I actually have a thread in my free Facebook group, there'll be a link in the show notes, and I've put a little thread up in there which is the "someone is wrong on the internet" thread. The idea of this thread is that instead of replying to the individual, to the post that I have seen, that has enraged me and thus giving it even more air time and showing it to even more people and also just raising my blood pressure and making me feel worse about the world and myself. Instead of doing those things the idea is hop over to that thread, maybe bookmarked it somewhere, and you just say all the things you want to say on that thread in a comment. The rules are nobody is allowed to reply to you, nobody is allowed to correct you, you just get it out of your system on that thread and that's it that's it, that's the end of it. But the other rule is that you are not allowed to share what you're replying to. It is about not promoting more of that stuff that we don't really want to see by engaging with it, so we're also, we're not sharing why we are annoyed by it, we're not sharing specifically what was said, we're definitely not sharing links to the Tweet or the post or whatever it is, it is just this is what I want to reply with and I'm going to reply. And it can be sweary, it can be aggressive, it can be super duper mean, and you can say whatever you want and then you move on with your life. You obviously don't have to use the thread in my Facebook group, you can maybe have a friend who you message instead. So this is something I am trying, so far I have found it very helpful, there have been a few occasions where I have seen, one was a comment on YouTube about demisexuality and I tried initially to just not reply full stop and just be like "I'm just gonna breathe, what does it matter somebody doesn't believe in demisexuality? Who cares?" and it just started to eat me alive. So I hopped over to that thread in the Acorn Facebook group, I left a little rant and and I felt better. I did, I let it go, I let it go, I don't feel it now, I can tell you about this story, I'm not still angry about it, I don't care. That person can go about their day, I can go about my day, we'll live happily ever after. So I invite you to, when you see that post and you feel, maybe you've already started rage typing, I mean you can rage type it to them and cut and paste it and then not send it to them but send it to your friend, post it on a thread, where you are invited to post it, something like that, just so you can get it out of your system but you are not sharing that content even further, you're not engaging with it, you're not getting into a back and forth, you're not raising your blood pressure, you're not involving your own followers and dragging them into this sort of mess. I will say, if it is hate speech, if it is inciting violence, if it is super duper horrific, I will report it. I would still not advise engaging with it, report that content. I know a lot of social networks aren't the best at taking down all the hate speech and stuff, they're not, but the more of us who actually just report that content instead of engaging with it, the less far it will go, the more likely it is to be taken down. So if it is genuine hate speech and just awful stuff, please just report it. But I invite you try, speak to a friend, find a thread, start your own thread in a Facebook group with permission of the mods or whoever's Facebook group it is, drop it in the Acorn Facebook group on the thread there, find some way where you can. If you're a private person you can just journal about it, write it in your own journal, get it out of your system. But yeah, I challenge you to try for a week. Try for a week, how many times can you catch yourself and not respond to that person? And how does it make you feel? Maybe you find it just doesn't help, you've really got to fire it at the person who said it, okay that's fine. But if it helps I would love to hear about it, even if it doesn't help I would love to hear about it! Tell me your experience with it, I am interested. So this is a little bit of a different tip episode but I would be really interested to hear if it helps you and I will definitely be continuing to do this. So yeah, as I mentioned I have a free Facebook group that is "Acorn a nourishing ecosystem for small biz," there will be a link in the show notes to that. I also have, if you want group support but also extra trainings and courses and all that kind of thing, I have the Social Media for Humans Club for small business owners to figure out how to make social media work for them. The podcast is also on Patreon, so if you want early access to episodes you can get those over there, they are about three weeks ahead over on Patreon so get over there to get some juicy, juicy juicy guest episodes early. Yeah! Come follow me on social media and take care of yourself.Hawke:
If you want more regular reminders to find your own way to use social media, follow Alexis on your social platform of choice, all the links will be in the show notes. Until next time, be a human.