Creating an aligned social media practice with Lori Reising

If you're longing for a version of social media that you don't hate, Lori Reising (she/her) has some powerful advice for creating an aligned social media practice that supports your business and your life. She talks about sovereignty, the power of choice and quitting "trying" to do the good habits.

Lori brings you over 2 decades of experience as a Holistic and Trauma-Informed Healer, Intuitive Medium, Embodiment Guide, Ritual Facilitator and Fear Culture Disrupter. As the host of the soul-hitting podcast The Raw and Wild Hearts, her enthusiasm for your potential is palpable.  Lori came into this physical world with the ability to hear, see and feel messages from her higher self and guides.   She brings her experience from lifetimes for your ultimate transformation of deep cultural programming and conditioning to rediscover your life force energy and majesty in a life with your birthright of joy and ease in this wild human journey.  Her deliverance of meditation and cosmic guidance offers access points to the evolutionary and creative expansion we were sent here to embody.  Her playful energy will reignite your inner child. Her passion for your multidimensional potential is unstoppable!

Lori's links.
Website: www.therawandwildhearts.com
YouTube: www.youtube.com/therawandwildhearts
Instagram: www.instagram.com/therawandwildhearts
Facebook: www.facebook.com/therawandwildhearts
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lori-reising-81290938/

Alexis' links.
I hang out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbushnell/​
Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SocialMediaForHumans
Join the club to learn more about ethical and effective social media marketing: https://socialmediaforhumans.club/

Voice over by Hawke Wood: https://www.spotlight.com/3490-9081-8844

Support the show

Alexis' links.
I hang out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbushnell/​
Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SocialMediaForHumans
Join the club to learn more about ethical and effective social media marketing: https://socialmediaforhumans.club/

Voice over by Hawke Wood: https://www.spotlight.com/3490-9081-8844

Transcript

Hawke: 0:00

Hello and welcome to Social Media for Humans, the  podcast that empowers you to do social differently.   Your host Alexis Bushnell and her guests discuss  their experience of social media as business   owners, users, and ultimately humans. With insights  and advice to help you find an effective and   ethical strategy that works for you. Grab yourself  a drink and join the conversation.

Alexis: 0:24

Hello hello, I am here with wonderful Lori please introduce yourself tell us who you are and what you do.

Lori: 0:32

Hello Alexis and hello everyone, thank you for having me,  my name is Lori Reising, my pronouns are she her and   I am a trauma-informed healing artist, a meditation  guide, a ritual facilitator, an embodiment guide, a   retreat leader, but really I'm your biggest  cheerleader into your divinity and magic because   I know what we can do and what we came here  to do and I just want to unleash that majesty   as much as we can in these human lives. Oh and  I'm a host of the podcast the Raw and Wild Hearts.  

Alexis: 1:07

So many amazing things. Lori: Yeah I wear many hats for sure. It's interesting you kick off with trauma because  I will say I am processing a lot of my own trauma   right now and I know it is something that  is being talked about a   lot more on social media, but I also know that  social media is kind of causing problems with   some people who are processing their trauma, it is  making things sometimes more difficult to process   and bringing stuff up maybe a little bit sooner  than it would have been ideal to have that brought   up, so I'm interested in sort of your take on that,  like how is social media impacting both people who   are dealing with trauma at the moment and also how  is it potentially causing   trauma in people who maybe were totally  balanced and fine and happy beforehand?  

Lori: 2:10

Well okay first of all totally  balanced and fine and happy is   that's really big because I don't you know, I  think that we achieve that at points in our   lives but the human journey is one of struggle,  of fluctuation, of energy shifts. So I think that   number one that's something that really does us an  injustice that we have this bar that's raised that   we're supposed to feel good all the time so when  we actually normalise the fluctuation of the human   journey then we don't get that I'm, you know, that  inner critic that there's something wrong with   me, I'm not doing it right, and that's where social  media can come in with that comparison culture   because we're seeing because people. Okay anything  with media you're trying, someone's trying to buy   something from you right, like they're selling  something to you, you're buying something from   them, right? With your attention and with your  care and with your energy and so you know even   the people with the best of intentions, you  know, someone has a different energy fluctuation   that day and they're in a different space and then  they get hit with your extreme bliss and happiness   and if we're not completely authentic with  it yeah, that comparison culture can come up   and then that standard of you know what, like  one size, I like to say one size force all   comes up because that's kind of where we were  raised it's like oh everyone has to produce   at this level, if you're not working like this  then your worth isn't there, you know? It's like   there's so much that's wrapped up into it  so I think that the more that we hold social media   in an authentic light rather than like this holy grail of like, oh that's where we're gonna   get the business and that's where, you know, we  have to show up every day on social media and   then we exhaust ourselves. So there's a  lot of cycles that go into social media and media   in general and I think I don't know any human that  wouldn't actually fall prey to them, and I say that   in a way that that's we fall prey to being human  like but let's normalise it because it's such   a beautiful journey and when we embrace the  shadow, we embrace the fact that we all have trauma   no matter how you came in, where you came in, if you're a human you have had some   level of trauma, money or not money, you know, we put  so much focus and emphasis on money for happiness   and so you know, starting there like I feel like  that's a really beautiful place to just hold in   your heart and have that be your bar like we are  going to experience trauma, even if you feel and I   quoted that, if you feel like you've worked through  all of your trauma there's gonna be more coming.   We live in this chaotic, crazy world and we  have to interact with it right, and so trauma will   come and so the more that we can fluctuate with it,  the more that we can feel and heal, and the   last thing I want to say Alexis because I want  to hear what you have to say more about this   is that I like to call it your stream of  consciousness, so if you get really deliberate   with any media consumption you can create  a really beautiful stream of consciousness   and this includes following, unfollowing, like  however you're feeling that day if that is not the   energy, if that energy is bringing you down, it's  creating a lower vibration for you, and    if that's what feels right to you is to unfollow  it, to release that energy from your system and   your stream of consciousness, go ahead take care of  yourself. And that's where I feel like you know we   even start to get into this place on social media  like "oh they followed me, I need to follow them but   it makes me feel really horrible," like we have to.  So I'm an embodiment guide, I actually help people   feel their body consciousness which is our  inherent navigation system that we came   in with that we've been disconnected from and  disassociated from in our linear based culture,   so when you feel your body consciousness and when  it's telling you something, when you see something   on social media and your body tenses up that's a  message, that's a message to take action just like   pain is a message, it's a beautiful message to let  you know that you need to shift something in your   lifestyle to create homeostasis again. I know that  was a long answer but it was a big question Alexis!  

Alexis: 6:43

That was really interesting and I think it gives  people a lot to think about as well because I do   think we like to simplify things, you know, we like  to say like "social media is bad for our   mental health," we like there to be a firm answer,  "this is true in all cases and that's just how it is."  And a few things I've noticed when you talk about sort of the   body consciousness, this is something I  hear people talk about without them realising   that they're talking about it so much with social  media, is when they are saying like people don't   like social media, I don't like how it makes me  feel, I always feel stressed afterwards, when I use Instagram I feel like this,  when I use Facebook I feel like that, and I think   but that's a sign that you need to change  something, like that is a sign. If you're coming   away and you say you're feeling really tense  and you're like "oh I don't know what to do with   myself, I just feel horrible," that's not social  media is bad, that's the way you're engaging with   it right now is bad. And I think that feels kind  of horrible because I think we like to,   it's a lot easier to give up our agency and say  like "it's not it's not me, it's social media, Mark Zuckerberg's the bad guy," I mean yes, he  is the bad guy but also we do have a choice   in how we engage with social media,  and these tools that we have, and so checking   in with ourselves and allowing ourselves to be empowered to make changes is so, so important.   And this also kind of ties in I think to how  people are sort of consuming the mental   health content, and just all content really that is  impacting their mental health, because certainly I   find that there is a lot of really useful content  on social media, there is really great educational   content around mental health and everything  else, and there is really great resources on tips   you can try, breathing methods you can try, quick  videos of how to become embodied for a moment and   check in with your body and things like that. That  information is out there and it is so much easier   to access now and it's also much easier for us to  access when we need it, and again this comes back   to us sort of choosing to follow and unfollow and  and navigate social media differently rather than willing it to be good or bad, you know, one or  the other, and people do find it really difficult   to sort of step away and go "okay, my feed  makes me feel yucky and horrible, how do I   change that?" And it's when I talk  to people and they're like "okay, I hate Instagram   and because like all the accounts I follow  are doing so well and they're amazing   and they're so successful and they're telling  telling me about their multi-million dollar   business and their fabulous  family life and that this is happening for them   and that's happening but it's all amazing," and I'm  like what are you... why didn't you unfollow them? And   then there's always that moment  of pause where they're like   "that's a good question but I don't feel like I can,"  and you can see the internal debate happening   of yeah, that's a really obvious answer but I should be following them because whatever, because maybe it's I think it's going  to motivate me, I think it's going to inspire   me but it's not, like clearly it's not if you  are saying I see these things and it just   makes me feel awful, you're not motivated, you're  not inspired, it's okay to unfollow those people.  

Lori: 10:44

Yeah so it's really interesting  that you bring this up and   I love that you brought in agency because the more  that we step into our sovereignty and embody that   and realize where are those motivations coming from every day. So I'm a ritual   facilitator, we are creating ritual every single  day, it's subconscious ritual and that that's the   difference between habit and ritual, habits are the  subconscious rituals that happen every single day,   rituals are the intentional practices that  we do for a specific purpose. So I think once   again it's like we have to come to these inherent  truths and the inherent truth is you are engaging   in a practice every single day, the more you do  it the more it becomes like an addiction, right,   so habit, practice and addiction, you know we can look at those terms and they all have   separate meanings but yet they're very similar,  okay, and so when we do something   continually we actually develop neural pathways  that support us continuing to do that, and this   comes into the mental health conversation as well,  and so it takes a lot of presence, a lot of energy   and a lot of deep work on our belief systems  that have been born from those habits that have   been subconscious and they get very deep within us,  that's what our culture does to us the programming,   you know the conditioning that happens from when  we're in the womb, it happens before we're even   born into this world, it's very very very powerful  but we are just as powerful, we didn't get that   message, we only got the message of what we should  do and what we should be and the one size fits all   and, you know, if you produce this  much then you're going to be worthy. And we're   also looking for gratification externally so  you know we can look at social media that way   too and, Alexis, I completely agree with you there  are like there's so much free education out there   and people are coming online with the gifts  that they came in to share with true passion,   we're really shifting that dynamic here and I  love it, I'm so here for it but I think that the   the biggest piece here that you touched on is our  agency and realising what's the practice you're   engaging in every day, is it raising your vibration,  is it giving you motivation, is it feeling   supportive or is it bringing you into a lower  vibration, is it contributing to you know more   difficult mental health days, and that's something  that only you can decide, only you know that,   no one else knows that. So once we actually take  personal power and sovereignty over our lives   and realise that we make choices every day, what  are the choices you're gonna make now? I'm so   excited to have this conversation with you today  because I have been on a social media break for,   I don't know, three weeks now something like  that because there's a lot of Piscean energies   and these are very divine energies and I've been  called to deepen my practice and I had to do deep   belief system work around that because I've been  creating an online practice or online business now   for a year, year and a half, and you get hammered  into you that you have to be on social media, you   have to show up every day, you know, you have to  get the following and the engagement,   you know what I'm talking about, I mean this is what you're sharing in the world. And so   you know, the Piscean energies right now are giving  us this really rare and beautiful opportunity   to make deep changes in our behaviours, but if  you're not tapping in then, if you're just staying   in the loop of what is habitual, what you've gotten  so used to, you've created a neural pathway for it   even if it feels terrible, then you don't realise  that there's some energies that you can   actually make a shift and you feel the results. And  when you feel the results, when you feel good, when   you do it, let's say you do it for three days and  you're like "oh my god, I feel really good" for three   days that fuels where you're going because that's  internal gratification instead of looking for the   external gratification, and so I've gotten to  the point where I don't even know that I want to   go back, like I'm not completely done, I've jumped  on like once to share a powerful message that was   coming through because I'm connecting so deeply  with my divine self and my higher consciousness   away from social media. I don't turn on my phone  for at least an hour to an hour and a half when   I wake up in the morning, like these are little  practices that make huge differences but you have   to be tapping in because when you feel it in your  body your body guides you. If you're only thinking   about it and you're staying in the belief system  or what's been created in your linear control mind   then it's really hard to follow those impulses  and it's really hard to even feel the results.  

Alexis: 15:53

Yeah yeah and it's interesting that you're  saying like you've sort of, it's been difficult for you to sort of go "right  okay, I'm gonna go off social media for a bit"   because I feel it in myself there is a resistance to dropping in and   feeling and to trusting what you're feeling  and so I notice that I can feel the energy shift   and I'm like "oh it doesn't feel good  to be doing what I'm usually doing"   but there is not switching the brain off  but switching over and being like "okay I'm gonna   figure out what this feeling is and what  it's telling me and how I think I should   be changing things accordingly and then try  that," there is so much resistance to that   and a lot of it is, like you say, because we are  taught to be in our brains, you know, we are taught to use our intelligence and that's the thing that matters and it doesn't matter about   your emotions or what you're feeling and all that  woo woo hippy dippy shit, that doesn't matter,   what matters is logic. And apparently we're  all becoming Vulcan now! And so it makes   it really difficult I think for people, including  myself, to feel those shifts and allow yourself to   to go with them because we are in this society  where we are like this is what my work day looks   like and I do that five days a week every  week regardless of what is happening, nothing   ever changes, that's just how it is and it doesn't  allow for natural fluctuations in ourselves, in   our own bodies for illness, for life stresses, for  things going on in the larger world, for anything   like that, and we are trained so much and we  work so hard to ignore those things and keep   focusing on like no, we just do this, this is the  routine, this is how we do it, this is what we do.   But it's really weird to me  even from a capitalist perspective   because I think, every time I speak to somebody  or I myself allow myself to tap into that and go   okay my energy levels are really low today say so  I am not going to work today, I'll shift what I was   going to do today to tomorrow or maybe I'll work a  day at the weekend or whatever, I'm just   gonna let myself rest, I'm gonna maybe do some  some self-care, have a nice long shower, whatever.   If I do that I feel much better. The next day  maybe I get all the stuff I was   supposed to do the day before done and a little  bit more, and it fascinates me that even though   that is true for basically everybody, like if we  listen to what we need and to what's going   on and adjust things accordingly we are more  motivated and more creative and more productive,   and yet we still are determined to be like "no,  let's not listen to any of that, let's just keep   pushing on doing the thing that is not working." Lori: I mean that's how deep the programming runs because it continues to run. So even when, this is where I say we're going to continually have trauma   so even when we do our deep work, our deep and  belief system work because that's really what   this is coming down to, because those belief  systems are what are being built inside of   us since we before pre-language even because our  sensory system understands everything that's going   on around us, we are energy, everything's energy,  this is scientifically proven at this point   right. And so yeah, like that's really deep belief system work that we have to   continually work on and that's why I'm so focused  on the ritual part where we make a conscious   choice every day of what we're going to engage  in because when we don't those messages come in   and they pull us back to what we knew, those neural  pathways that got so comfortable in where they've developed because it's over and  over and over right. And so because there is on   social media, it can be social media I don't know  I guess we're lumping everything in like Facebook,   YouTube, all of the things, but this is where  you can find the people that help you create an   excitement and a passion about a new way of living,  right? About creating conscious choice every single   day and I say when you find those people, those  mentors, those colleagues, those friends, whatever   like stay with them, you know. A lot of people are  releasing free content at this point because you   were talking about the capitalist structure that  we're in, well we're in the Pluto return now like   there's at least for the US but that ripples  out to everyone because there's a ripple effect   everywhere all the time, and so those structures  are getting dismantled. It's not going to   happen like that, we're so used to immediate  gratification and that's something we have to look   at for a belief system, but you know they are going  to be dismantled and we are here to rebuild them   so the more that we make the choice to create deep  change, even though it's uncomfortable at first.   So there's something called healing pain when I  do trauma work with people through the body, and as   you start to unravel a trauma either physically or  emotionally, from your body not the conscious mind,   you can go through a very deep pain  that's stored in the body at the time of   impact and it's stored very deeply in ourselves  so as you open that up and those emotions and   those pain symptoms start to come out a  lot of people shut down from fear of the unknown,   okay, and so then they trap that pain even deeper  in their body. And so these capitalist structures,   these belief systems, where have they gotten us?  Now we know for sure they've gotten us to dis-ease,   to stress, right, to discontentment, to stagnation, to  blockages, they've gotten us to efforting so hard,   and that's the hustle culture we have to effort  so hard the whole time we're living in these human   bodies and then you know we retire and maybe we  have a few good years or maybe like, who knows,   it's like what?! How about we have good years  all the time like where we're at! And so we've   been sold a bunch of BS for a very long time but  there's a lot of people right now coming online   to change these systems deeply and, like I said  Alexis, I am so here for it. So when you find   those people, even if you find them through  social media, you don't have to stay on their   social media channels if it doesn't feel good, you  know, get on their website, get on their mailing   list, they're giving you so much beautiful  content and if you want go further with them   invest in what they're doing because then the  more that they get lifted up in their business   the more people they can affect, and when we do  this with each other there's a ripple effect   and we create a whole new way of small business,  of connection, and this is where when we, oh it's   hard because when we, you know, tap out  of social media a little bit and tap really deeply   into our higher consciousness we get the messages  of what we were sent here to share. We were all   sent here to share something very deeply, when you  tap into that you have such belief, such passion   and such excitement about the unknown because  you have a divine trust in where you're going   because it's emanating from your cells, it's  not just your control brain saying "I have   to do this to make the money, to get the house, to  you know all the things," and then yeah   of course it's still a job but doing the work  is fulfilling right? And then when we're fulfilled   and we understand that we can go through the  fluctuations, we have the downtime, and when we   understand that the downtime, the connection time,  the soul time actually brings us more elevated   in our business because we show up from a full  cup and people feel that when we start running   on energy instead of "supposed to" and "control  minds." Like we like to control our bodies with our   minds, we like to control our emotions, and  that has gotten us into a very fractured place   so when you start to open up to the realm of like  spiral living, possibilities everywhere, you know,   fluidity and flow, you know, releasing the  stagnation and the blockages, like even now   I just want to like move my shoulders, then we  live in such a beautiful state of   I want to say balance but like a state  of joy and ease, even in our businesses.   Now don't get me wrong, I'm in the beginnings of an  online business and there's a lot of work that's   put in, but when I feel so passionately about what  I'm sharing, you know, there's a level of commitment   and excitement there that doesn't create disease  and stress that a job that you have no passion for,   that you're only doing to get the insurance  benefits, and believe me there are people we have   to do that still, like we've got a ways to go with  this, but there are people that are really trying   to pioneer this into a new earth way of living and  I think that the more that we look at our social   media habits, practices and choices I think that  that ripples out into the community as well, Alexis.   Yeah yeah there's there's two things that  actually I sort of took from that that I want   to sort of build on and they kind of tie  together and one of them is this idea of like   working from your passion because  that is something that really shows when   you are creating social media content  whether you're putting out free content,   in your trainings that you do, in your things  that you create, in everything, if you have that   real belief and that love and that passion  and that motivation that is coming from   this is the thing that I love, this is what I want  to share, this is what matters to me, that comes   through even through a phone screen, even through  you know a 280 character Tweet are we at now?!   It comes through even in those sort of small  spaces on social media and that is what   draws people to you and I think this is something  that is lost when like authenticity is like the   buzzword now and everybody wants to be authentic  but all that is is just allowing you to come   through and you can't fake authenticity like that  because the point is that it's you tapping into   whatever is inside of you and just putting that  out there, and I think alongside that comes this   fear of that is going to turn some people off,  like there are going to be people who disagree,   who haven't done the work yet, who don't  want this to change, who are very invested in   whatever it is that they believe, and they  are going to see this content and they are   going to come at me, or I am going to  lose followers or clients or whatever   because I've put this out there and   it's really sad to me to see the kind of internal war in people when  I work with them, especially around this,   because so many people start to understand  like yeah okay authenticity, I want to be myself,   I want to bring people to me who who believe in  what I do and who I gel with and who I get on with   and who are my people, but I am so terrified that I  am going to bring forth sort of the wall of trolls   who just want to yell at me and I don't feel able  to sort of manage that, and so people pull back and   try and keep those walls up and keep that  control so that they avoid that and then   the knock-on effect from that is less traction  in their business, and fewer followers on social   media, and less engagement because the people  who are there for them aren't really getting   all of them because they're trying to avoid the  other stuff so I'm really interested sort of is there anything that you can recommend I guess  to people because it is something that I discuss   a lot with people and they really struggle with.  Lori: Absolutely I'm so glad you asked so I'm actually   gonna take the word authenticity and  shift it a little bit because when we are in   alignment within ourselves we have a deep  sense of trust, and when you trust what you're   sharing you trust your message it's the  difference between selling from a place of trust   and excitement because you know it's going to  change people's lives opposed to selling from a   place of need because you need that money, because  it's scarcity right, the scarcity mentality of like   "if I don't get this sold there's gonna be nobody  else," you know. And we can apply this   to relationships too, you know, people don't leave  relationships because "there's nobody   else out there," like we're sold that this is the  only thing you have to stay with this right, and   we live in a benevolent universe, it's so abundant  and there's a shit ton of people here,   right, so let them go, you don't want them, honestly  because then you create more space for the people   that want your message, that are magnetising to  your message, because if those people stick around   that are the troll type energy, that are dragging,  that are opposing, that are staying in this like   fractured dualist culture that we have, right,  instead of rising above and being in this place   of like I want the aligned stream of consciousness,  I don't want to sit here and argue on social media,   like what a waste of my life, what a waste of  my time right, so you want those people to go   because they're dragging your energy, so holding  on to them to have the numbers is coming from a   scarcity belief system. And no judgment  here because this is deeply deeply ingrained in   us to be in scarcity, that's how we've been sold  things, sensationalism culture sells us things if   we're in scarcity and they tell us we need this to  be happy, we need this external thing to be happy,   even social media people that are out there, and   you know I was victim to this in the beginning too   they were like "you need to engage every single day,  you need your numbers to look like this," and   I was pushing myself to the point of exhaustion  because I wasn't in alignment and I was still   sharing a post I'm not putting out my  best energy so I would rather take the space   to get in alignment and be well and share from that place of trust and love   instead of need and fear right. And so there's  one other thing I want to share about this Alexis   because I think this is important, I haven't had  to do it and I'm totally open to doing this if   it comes my way like I'm just putting that out  to the universe right now, but there's a reason   that there's the delete button and the block  button. This is your page, this is your message   and even if you delete and block people that  are bringing negative energy to your field   this is your agency, you're sharing yourself, this is your page, you can have   boundaries, the other people that want to  hear your message are going to come because   you're going to feel so much better because you're  not being drained from the people that you feel   like have to stay for scarcity or number reasons.  And that's why I say like taking the time to do   intentional practice of getting in your alignment  and feeling your body consciousness, oh this   I did want to touch on this when you said  the woo-woo hippy-dippy shit, we all are,   that's how we came in, like we are energy and  I think the more that we transform that idea   right, because that was sold, we were sold a  bunch of fear on that, a fear of our power, of   our magic, of our abilities. This is our manifestation creation energy that was   fractured from us and so when we drop back into  that and when you get into alignment and you   feel the messages, you hear the messages, you get  the internal navigation system, you get to turn   off the control brain which is our fear brain, our  learned fear brain, you get to turn that off or   turn it down, turn up the alignment  piece in you, then even. I just wish that we   would get off the numbers thing because that is a linear mind, it's a school system basis whatever I want to say, and we got so  focused on that right, so let's say I have you   know, 10 000 followers with 5% engagement  or let's say I have 3 000 followers with   50% engagement, I feel like that's actually a  no-brainer, so when we reframe things and look   at it in that sense it's like wait a second. I  know for me I've gotten frustrated because    I'll try to engage people and if they're not engaging with me I'm like   "oh, so why are you here? Like are you here," because  it's clear I'm sharing a message here, so when   I'm on other people's pages I try to engage when I  have time. When you're building a business, you know,   you do have to prioritise your time, especially  because alignment for me is very important   but you know, I'll be like I mean you don't  have to be here if you don't want to engage with   me, you know, and I'm not going to feel bad about  sharing what I know can change people's lives   right? So they can either go or they can stay but  I also have the sovereignty to choose if they go   if they're creating a negative energy on my page  because everyone feels it. This is   truth at this point, we all feel energy all the  time. We've been told to deny it, we've all been gaslit away from who we are, right, and  so it's like when you feel something and you honour   it and you act on it you're gonna feel it more  and you're gonna hear it more because that's you   co-creating with a beautiful benevolent universe  that is there to help you, even in social media,   so thank you for asking that. Alexis: Yeah it's interesting you talk as well about    that sort of, what is I see manifesting as fear of success in a lot of people,   and this idea that we are afraid of  our own talents and our own skills   and tapping into what we know. And again a lot  of people that I work with it is this like,   this sort of "I need this amount  of followers otherwise I'm not successful,"   and also absolute fear of creating the content  that is going to maybe bring them those followers   because "but what if I have those followers,  what then?" You know, and the fear of but   then all those people will see me, and there  is so much confusion and fear in people   around social media and I do think some of it  is partly our brains are just we are not wired   to stand in front of ten thousand,  a hundred thousand, a million people,   like we are not wired to have that experience and  so when we do get to those numbers on social media   it's a lot, like that's a huge amount  to process and figure out and handle   and none of us are prepared for that and  also we're all so terrified to get there   that we're all sort of "I don't want to put  this out there, I don't want to do this thing.   I mean like I want to do it but I don't want to do it," and   it's just so sad to see people, and myself  included, like I have not transcended this!   But it's so sad because it seems to  happen, I don't know that's not true. I think we see   it a lot in people who have the the belief and the  connection that what they're doing is important   but that fear of success really really  comes in versus the people who seem to   not really have a fear of success seem to  not be that tapped into what they're doing   and it is really interesting to me to sort of  see the the way that plays out in these sort of   really small, micro business owners who are have  really important stuff to put into the world and   are absolutely terrified to get an audience that  allows them to change large amounts of people's   minds, to change a large amount of lives, versus the  people who are quite happy to be out there talking   to everybody and anybody who'll listen about  stuff that makes them feel awful about themselves. It's so frustrating and I think so many people  are also just like "what do we do about that?"   You know, "what what do we do?" Because it is  like you, say it is about reconnecting to   ourselves and taking that time away and that  feels like not trying to succeed because   "but if we want to succeed we have to be  posting, we have to be engaging, we have to   be creating the content and putting stuff  out there and telling people about things,"   but actually that's not true. Actually if we take  some time away to reconnect and go "okay well what   content is actually going to serve those people?  What do I need to put out there right now?   What matters right now? What are the big questions  that people are asking me that I can help   with?" If we take the time to sort of centre  ourselves and go "okay, where can I help?"   that is going to make such such a bigger  difference to both your business, to yourself,   to how you deal with social media, to your  follower numbers, to all of those things than   if you just go "okay I'm just going to keep posting this sort of content that I'm not like, I   think it's okay, I like it but it's not really, it's also kind of hedging my bets and a bit, a bit like on the fence.

Lori: 39:34

So I have a couple of things. I  actually want to ask you a question, so why   are we not wired to be in front of ten thousand,  hundred thousand people?  

Alexis: 39:48

My thinking is just like we have not been in, like  before the internet it was, maybe not specifically the internet but like TV, film, stuff like that, we just weren't in front of that amount of   people, you know, it was small communities,  it was small groups, we were focused on   our neighbours and our families and our friends  and that sort of small community of people,   and we learned to connect with those people,  to have conversations with those people,   to speak to maybe that whole group and  I just feel like there is a difference   between. Because if you're speaking to that group  of people who you socialise with and you know and   you understand the dynamics of that group, that  isn't something that easily translates to I am now   talking to a hundred thousand people who I've  never met before, I don't even know their names,   I don't know where they are in the world, and so I  feel like that is kind of a mind fuck for people.  

Lori: 40:59

Okay I'm really glad you answered it like that  because this is so important. This is tapping into   the belief system of immediate gratification  because you just went from talking to   your inner circle to 100 000 people, that's  not actually how life unfolds, it's a journey   right? And so this is what we're missing in social  media. So I have heard people say you have as   many followers as you have capacity for, and I'm never gonna say like that is a   hard truth because nothing is a hard truth, which  is why I asked you that question. We are   available and able to create miracles, what do you  practice? So if you practice talking to five people   every single day you get really, really  comfortable in it. Anything you practice   you will get good at, so as you go from you  know 100 followers to a thousand followers   you practice during that time, right? You're  engaging, you're sharing, maybe you're getting on   video, you know, you're starting to do more and more  things, this is the beauty of the unfolding journey.   In our immediate gratification we're like no,  we want a hundred thousand followers right now.   You haven't gotten there, your energy hasn't  gotten there. So you have to give yourself   the time and space to allow your journey  to unfold because it will come divinely   if you put your energy there, if you truly believe  in it, if you stay in your alignment, if you trust   what you're doing, maybe it doesn't come this year  maybe it doesn't come next year, maybe it comes in   six years when you're ready or when it's divinely  timed for you, right. So again this, I mean there's   so many belief systems here, it takes us back  to money, like money is happiness right? And if   I have more followers I have more money, and that  is like that is the biggest way to frustration   and stress and fear that we can go. So when  you get deeply into your present journey   and what you're unfolding, and what you're creating,  it's a really beautiful thing right, and so you   take steps, you go more and more. I'm  going to give you an example. A year ago   oh my god, I knew I needed to create  a digital course, for years I've known this, I've   been like "I've got to get this information  out, I have so much to share, I know it   will change people's lives," and a year ago when  I was learning, you know, I was doing the podcast   thing and producing and like learning everything  online, because I used to be an in-person practice,   a digital course completely overwhelmed me but  I was like no, I've got to do it. So I was like   listening to the podcast, I was listening to  Amy Porterfield or whatever right, I'm like I've   got to do it but my body was saying no, every time  I tried my body was like "no," and I finally just let   it go and it's like I was letting go of money, you  know, and I'm starting   out a business and we do need money to survive,  that's true, but if we can start to make some deep   internal shifts around these beliefs and reframe  them and actually start to enjoy the unfolding   journey that every time you post you're practicing,  and every time you're in alignment you're doing it   in a deeper and more profound and exquisite  way, and every time you're in alignment you might   get one new follower, awesome! Right, who knows when  the 100 followers a day comes, like who knows. That   will happen when it comes but you do  have to be intentional in the way that you do   this, it does not mean you have to post every  day because if you're exhausting yourself and   stressing yourself out you're creating more of  that that fear, the the push and pull that   you're talking about. And so the other thing  I wanted to tap into here Alexis is you said   people are afraid of, have a fear of success  and I feel like people have a fear of failure.   Now if we reframe failure right it's like "oh I put  myself out there and there were crickets," and I've   done this right, I mean we all have if we're staying in this in this space, you know.   And then I used to be like oh nobody believes in this, or it's not affecting them, and   you know, and then the inner critic comes up and  the judgments and all of that, but wait a second!   If we do know that people have to hear something  seven times, and there's a lot of noise out there,   in order for them to truly connect, because a lot  of times they're not in their present moment right,   so you continue to bring them your  message and if they're going to connect, you know,   they will eventually. It doesn't mean it's going  to happen the first time but that's the practice,   you keep being intentional with your practice, you  keep putting yourself out, every time you go on   video it's new practice, so let's say it's to five  people, and then it moves to ten, and then you know   eventually a year later you're doing a video for  a hundred people, and then a year after that you're   doing it for a hundred thousand people, because  we are made to create miracles and that's why   I wanted to to focus and touch on that question  because if we believe that we're not made to do   that then we won't ever do it, because that's  how powerful we are. So we actually have to work   the most on our internal belief systems,  on our place of alignment and gratification,   like where does our joy come from? Because if it's  only externally we're going to be in this really   shitty loop for a long time, right? We really have  to look on the inside and when you get more of   that sovereignty and agency, when you connect so  deeply with yourself and love yourself, this is   why I do mirror work, right. Like if you can look in  the mirror for a long time and be amazed at this   body and this journey, like look at what you have  been through, this human journey is not for weak.   I don't know one human out there that is  weak, you know. This is intense, it is a raw   and wild ride, and when we have continual  messages and continual noise coming at us   it is essential that we get very clear and  very deeply into a relationship with ourselves   before anyone else, because when you have that  love you are coming from a place of trust, you're   coming from a place of excitement for the unknown,  and you deeply, this is what I want for everyone   and I had to work on this for myself, when you  believe that there is no failure there's only   more information it actually takes you to a new  place, it helps you pivot, if you  listen it gives you wonderful information  to do something new. It does not mean to abandon   your dream and your belief and your passion,  it means let's create new possibilities here,   let's look for new avenues. There's no failure and  I think a lot of people that are at, you know. Not a   lot, I'm not going to say that because there are  people out there that I'm like how, how is there hundred thousand followers here? Like  I'm so bored, like I'm not getting, you know, what I   mean? This is not creating any kind of energetic  match for me and and some, you know, that's okay,   there's people that love that, they love somebody  that just posts the memes or whatever right,   and fantastic, that's the beauty of this, we all get  to. You're gonna magnetise the people that believe   in where you're going and what you're sharing,  and you get to choose where your attention goes,   and I mean I honestly, I cannot recommend  enough detaching from anything that feels   like it has an addictive tendency to it. Like  if you feel like you have to get on your phone,   like your body starts shaking or something,  like that's something that we need to address   because I mean I don't know that that's a good  state of health for us to be in, right? We should   be able to detach, we should, like you said, if we  look back at our evolution how did we come in?   We came in in nature, we didn't come in sitting  in chairs all day and this is what I help people   realise, that you have to create some space in  your day to move your body, move the energy. If   we're not moving the energy or our bodies  that stagnation and that like frequency   that is coming in it stalemates, it stays  there, and if you don't move your body and open   your cells get your blood and your energy  flowing it can create havoc within ourselves.

Alexis: 49:24

Yeah I want to mention as well, I have a  short story about like my own, sort of, learning to   let go, kind of, through technology.  I used to wear a Fitbit   and I got it basically primarily  to track sleep. I also have obsessive tendencies about sort of  food so when I recently moved   and I decided I was gonna take my Fitbit off and  my body response to that was very much "oh my god!   Why? Why? Why?" And I was like why am I having this response? Like it's literally, it's not a big deal,   you know, why does it matter? And I realised  a lot of the reason I was having that response   was that it was control, it was that was  the habit, I always wore it and I checked   my sleep in the morning to see how well I'd slept,  because my Fitbit knows better than my brain! And it was just control, it was that control of  like "but I have chosen to buy this and I have   chosen to wear it and that's what I do," and when I  stopped wearing it it was so strange to    sort of let myself let go, and I think if you are  somebody who is really on your phone and stuff   it can help to maybe not start with your phone.  If there are other things in your life that you   know you have a potentially unhealthy connection  with that you could practice letting go with, that   you can practice going "okay I know that this  is not actually bringing me anything useful   or it's not in the way that I use it, this is not  helpful for me," you can practice with other things   that are a little bit less difficult. Because I do  think we are in a place now where a lot of people   because our businesses are on online, because  of friends, especially at the moment you know   all our friendships and our family connections  are online, and so there is this whole thing   around our phones as well now, it's not quite  as simple as just put it down, don't look at   it for a lot of people now, and so it can help to  practice, to build up to that by starting with   smaller things that maybe you do still feel are like but I do that, this is what I do every morning,   this is a piece of technology that  I, quote, need and to try and just practice with   that, because it is kind of building that  like muscle of agency and of self-trust   and tapping into yourself, because maybe  you sort of stop using that   technology or whatever it is and you're like "yeah  no, actually I did prefer having it," like that's   fine, you've learned something, you know, and you've  learned to check in with yourself around that, and   then you can then apply that to the things that  are maybe bigger and more difficult for you.  

Lori: 52:50

Yes so this is interesting about this because it's  like a lot of us, and I did this for a long time in   my practice is I would kind of coddle  people along that were having pain   and I realise now that I kind of did an  injustice for them by doing that because   why is it that we're trying to do the  good habits but we easily do the bad ones?   We don't even try to do the bad ones we just let  them come on in, we practice them every single day,   but we're trying to create a good habit. So  this is like, it's, you know what I mean, the   psychology of it, like why do we feel so  comfortable in the things that create stress   and fear and dis-ease and discontentment  in our lives? We're so comfortable with them   and we say we cannot, you know, we can try to leave  them but like if you need them stay with them.   I know I'm going hardcore  with this Alexis but here's my take is we are   in these human bodies, this one, this human  body for this life right now, I want you to   live not in the stress, not in the fear, I want  you to live in the trust and the alignment   and the love for yourself, I want you to live  in robust mental health and that means that we   understand the fluctuations but we allow ourselves  to move through the fluctuations, we don't fear   them, we don't resist them, right, we move into them  and we ask for the help, we ask for the guidance   and the support that we need during those times  because we, like you, said we're humans we came in   in supportive communities and we've created a pretty big fracture around there, right.   And so in the way that I'm moving forward in the  new earth is I'm not using the word try anymore, so   if you choose to, you know, jump on social media  as soon as you wake up every day, okay, go ahead, that's your choice right, it's your agency, that is  your choice. If it doesn't make you feel good, if   it's creating a negative frequency with  you and you continue to choose it, that is still   your choice, right. I think the more that we really  just get real with ourselves about this and own it   then maybe we won't have resistance in there right?  I choose this, even though I know it's not making   me feel good I choose it, I'm going to continue to  choose it every day because that's what I'm doing.   But how about this? This is what I want to  pose to you, how about you choose a meditation,   right, any meditation, there's tons of  us are out here creating beautiful meditations   for you, you don't even have to do it on your  own you can push play, you choose a meditation   and you choose to push play on that every day  for a week and then I want to see where you're   at after that week, because in my experience with  the people that work with my meditations their   lives change within a week, they change within a  week. Is your life changing while you choose the   other that could be creating the lower frequency  for you? Does that change or does it maybe make   you feel a little worse after a week? So if you can  actually gauge these results, like give yourself a   week, or give yourself, like instead of trying, and  I appreciate that you said that because I think   this is a really good conversation to bring to the  table, instead of trying how about you go one day   without social media, doesn't mean you don't  use your phone and connect with your family   and all of those things. I get on  my email every day, I have a business to run.   But go one day, see what happens, like see how your  body tweaks out, like if you're feeling really like   anxious because that's how invested  you are in what's happening in social media,   or see how maybe it feels a lot better to actually  do something different for a day. I'll tell you   what, since I got off social media a few weeks ago  I have so much more time in my days so guess what   I'm doing, I'm actually focusing on my email list,  I'm focusing on writing some really great email   chains for people that choose to come on my  email list, I'm focusing on changing my website   right, because we've been so programmed to  believe that it's through social media that   we get the people and rarely do I have people  on my social media that jump on my email list   but if I have a great website where somebody  happens upon my website and they get drawn in   because what I'm creating on my website and then  they come on my email list which is what I own, I   don't own social media, they could kick me  off the social platform anytime for saying one   word that they don't like, right. I also there's been several times during the day I'm   like wow, what should I do? Like I have tons to  do but I'm like wow, I have a lot of time because   normally I would have jumped on, scrolled, checked  my stuff, seen how many people liked my   post or, you know, I don't like to leave comments  hanging so if there's a comment, I don't even get   notifications so I'll jump on, if I post something  I'll jump on once a day to check the comments   but I've only posted one thing in like three  weeks, I think it's two or three weeks. But I'm just   saying now all this time has been freed up for  me to put more intention into business practices   that could be a lot more solid, and I know your  business is social media so I'm not trying to   tell people to get off of social media and I will  get back on, but I feel so differently about it and   it feels really good so I have given myself the  space to feel the results because I didn't try,   I did it. And it might feel uncomfortable  at first because when we change any habit,   deeply ingrained habit, we can feel uncomfortable  but we can do anything, we are built to do   so much as humans, you know what I mean?  Yeah so I just appreciate that conversation   because I've had a long career working with people  with pain symptoms and, you know, things like that   and so I understand those very deep fears  that come up and a lot of times it comes down to   our ability to control our lives and I'll be real  with you, because I've worked in childbirth too,   the less we control the more we manifest and the  more we hear and the more alignment we get into, and so you know there's a lot of mentors out  there, there's a lot of people sharing some   really wonderful tools, just breath work  alone, you mentioned breath work, breath is life and   we don't breathe because we're in fight or flight  all the time, we're creating dis-ease and stress   right, and so yeah so I'm going to push it back  to you.

Alexis: 59:32

Yeah, no, I want to say about the sort of, the social media is one of the things that  I say to people is like you shouldn't   just be on social media, like you should have an  email list or a website or a group somewhere. Are we considering WhatsApp to be  social media? But like you should be able to   speak to your people off social media, like you  should have somewhere that you can connect with   those people if social media closed down tomorrow.  And this was something that came up, obviously, when   Facebook had their massive outage, was that  last year or the year before? Who knows anymore!   But yeah and a lot of people suddenly thought  "I can't sell anything, my entire business has now   closed down because Facebook is down," and that's  a problem, like you do need to be off social media.   And I think the other thing is that social  media isn't a sales platform in that way,   like social media is a relationship building  platform, it's a networking platform, it's a   connection platform, it's finding people who  inspire you and who you can inspire them, and   you can have those conversations and they can get  to know you and you can maybe become a part of   their life through the content you're posting  on there so that you're there in   their brain and they get to know who you  are and what you do and that kind of thing,   but it's not specifically a sales medium, it's  really hard to sell on social media, especially   for services because you don't have access to the  same sort of selling tools that you do for product   based businesses. And so I am totally with you  on like build your email list, get your website   sorted, like do those things, don't just sort of  dive in and be like "social media is my thing,   that's all I do, my shop is on social  media, that's it," I would not recommend that at all.   And I also think again, like you say, taking that  time away allows us to engage with social media   more effectively because a lot of, actually I put  a post up yesterday that was about likes   versus comments because I'd had a conversation  with someone who was like "yeah well like when I   like something that's me, like I'm supporting what  they're doing" and I was like "but if somebody   likes your content do you feel exactly the same  about it as if somebody leaves a comment   that shows that they've read it and they enjoyed  it they share their opinion or whatever it is?"   and they were like "uh well no, I guess  not, I much prefer the comments,"   and I put up a post about it and all the comments  are like "yes I love comments, why does nobody leave   comments anymore?" and I was thinking well  because you also don't leave comments now!   We just like mindless scroll, like scroll, like scroll, like,   and so if you take that time off social  media to connect with yourself and slow down,   when you are then on social media you have a  little bit more brain space to engage with people   and actually leave comments to connect with people,  you have maybe a little bit more actual time, like   a solid block of time rather than five minutes  while the kettle's boiling or while you're on   the toilet or whatever it is, you know, and so  I do think that actually taking that time away   and also focusing your business activities on  things other than social media is really really   beneficial, also to your social media if you  choose to use it, so yeah no, I am all for that.  

Lori: 1:03:18

So I have a question for you actually because it's like a conundrum in social media   right. So I totally feel and hear what you're  saying and that it's social right, so if you   want people to comment on your things, are you. Like I have to catch myself there because I'm so   busy with my business that I'll like a whole  bunch of stuff because I do feel like that's   a way of showing them like I like this, I care  about you and I care about what you're creating   as well. And the more you are social, you  know, then the more, I think, engagement you get   in that way as well, I agree. Now here's the  conundrum, so what you were saying before for the,   you know, your clients and the people  you're talking to is you know, they're like   nervous about it but yet they want  the 50k followers, is that still   social? Because it doesn't feel social to me if you  want 100k followers, it seems like you'd actually   want to sell something if you're looking for  that big following, because those people with   those followers they follow about 400 people,  right? But yet they have 100k followers or 20k   followers, whatever it is, so to me that's not  really lining up with the social aspect, so I   want to actually highlight this because I think  it gets confusing for people because they're   like "oh no I have to be social, so then I have  to follow everyone back that follows me" but yet   also they want these big numbers in order to  share their message, it's not you know. The thing   is Alexis, we're selling something every day all  day long, like even when you tell somebody about   some amazing dinner you had you're selling them  something, right, and so when we start to be real   about that then it actually makes it easier to  share what you're creating from your heart, you   know. I hope that it's coming from your heart and  what you're sharing what you really believe in,   then it doesn't feel like the selling because you  realise you're sharing things, you know, that maybe   they really will change their lives, it will do something for them because that's what   you believe in. So I feel like there's a conundrum  between the being social and like following   somebody back, they follow you, commenting on it,  and then the I got 20 000 followers or whatever.   I never see any of those accounts following 20 000  people too.  

Alexis: 1:05:36

Yeah, I think a lot of it comes down to largely I guess comparison, that a lot of people  will look, especially when they start off on   social media we look at like the other people  in our industry that are doing really well   and inevitably the ones we get shown are the ones  with the biggest following and so we build this   idea that success on social media looks like a  large amount of followers, and then people like me are talking about how you need to be social  and you're right, a lot of those accounts   are not very social on social media, and there  are accounts that aren't designed to be social,  they're posting memes or they're sharing like  funny stories or whatever it is and their   purpose for being on social media is to  post those things to make people laugh, to   share an idea, to whatever it is, it's not to be  social, and those accounts exist and that's fine   and they can do their thing, that's their purpose,  but I do think if your purpose is I want to work   with people, I want to help people, I want to sell  this thing to people because I care about it   and you want to build a community, that involves  you being social on social media and that is   probably going to land you a smaller following  because maybe what you're doing is very niche,   maybe they need to be really a fan of you and  your quote brand, sort of who you are, maybe that's   going to be a smaller amount of people, maybe  that's not going to be a million people, but that   doesn't mean that you can't run a successful  business, that doesn't mean that you are not a   success, it doesn't mean that your social media  isn't amazing it just means that your purpose   on social media is different to the person who  is just posting memes or whatever they're doing.

Lori: 1:07:37

Yeah I mean that's, I just feel like you know  there's a lot of inconsistencies as well,   you know, and there is no one size force all  or one size fits all, whatever you want to say,   and that's where I feel like if we come back  to our alignment and we come back to like a deep   truth within ourselves and we're not basing who we are, what we do, we're not basing   our lives on what happens on social media, then we  come to the table in a whole new way, in a whole   new strength and a centeredness and I think that that piece really starts maybe to get, it can   get jaded or muddled or confusing when we are in  the habitual addiction of it, right, when we don't   take a second, you know. It's just like if you  work a job, you're in the hustle culture, you   work yourself, you're stressed, you're overwhelmed,  you're basically living in stress and you never   take a day off, right, you're going to feel those  effects like no matter what you're going to feel   those effects or it's going to create dis-ease  later on in your life like, whatever it is right,   the pain symptoms that come up, like this kind  of habitual reaction can have the same effects and   so I just feel like if you never take that time to  even assess like who am I? Like I think we all need   to have those days where we just spend time with  ourselves, with nature, with like you know source   energy, like whatever you want to call it if you  believe in anything, but nature is healing, like   there is healing properties in nature, in water,  in fire, in earth, and air in breath, like all of   the things. Drink a lot of water, like take a day  and just drink water, right. I just, I feel like yeah I feel like it's an eternal conversation. I feel like there's always things and   topics that are going to come up, it's the way  of our world, but I think that as we move into,   I do a lot with astrology too but  as we move into the age of Aquarius   which is about technology and our sovereignty and  how we bring our sovereignty to the collective,   not how we become like the collective right,  so we get really strong within ourselves and our trust and what we're sharing with  the world, and then we bring that out to the   collective to make the collective stronger in all  of our power right, and our sovereignty. So I   think there's a way that we're really shifting  with social media that I like a lot and I think   there's a way that we're shifting with technology,  because no matter what we're gonna use technology,   like that is our lives and I love that you're  having these conversations because I think it's so   important that we continue to get new perspectives  on it because maybe it gives us a little aha, or   maybe our body consciousness like our cells awaken  and they're like "oh oh my gosh that feels right/" Like oh and you know what I mean, it gives us  a little perspective and I just love that you're   doing this Alexis. I saw your training,  I loved that, I love the passion that you have in   this area and that you do want to really create a  broad spectrum for people to hear and understand   more about the internal workings of social  media, but also the internal workings of our self   in connection with social media, especially our  mental health right, especially our trauma response,   especially the belief systems and the comparison  culture and the lack and the scarcity, it's so   important that we talk about this and we continue  to talk about it. thank you yeah i know it is it's  

Alexis: 1:11:26

Thank you, yeah, I know, it is, it's really important to me and I think partly because  so much of the questions that I get are sort   of, they come with a secondary question which  is like "but nobody else is doing this, but nobody   else says that I should be doing it this way, this  is the opposite to what everybody else is saying,"   and my attitude is kind of like "but what do you  actually want social media to look like in two   years? In five years?" Because if you continue  doing all of these things that you don't like,   that you don't like seeing on social  media, all the things that make you   not like social media, then social media is going  to keep going that way. Like if you want a   different social media, if you want it to be about  connection and be slower and be more intentional   and community focused, it starts with  you, it starts with how you use social media,   and so I think it is really important, like you  say, to have the conversations and to share that   idea because we have to shift how we interact  with social media for social media to change.  

Lori: 1:12:39

Yes yes yes yes! And I just want to say, I also  want to mention again when, because you brought   up like the fear of posting something that feels  really in alignment or our authentic self, the fear   of the trolls coming up or getting clap backs or  whatever, I say do it and do it now because that   is how you practice being in your sovereignty, that  is how you practice creating beautiful boundaries   for where you are and who you are in this life,  and the more you practice it the easier it gets,   the more we practice anything the easier it gets,  right. And the more that you are   in that sovereignty, the less you live your  life based on someone else's thoughts, judgments,   opinions, whatever, right, and so when you practice  that I promise you it will transform and it will   shift, and it's a beautiful feeling, it really is.  I love that I have created a very intentional   practice for myself and I love that I get to share  that with people as well and so I just want to   encourage you to like take the leap, right, we get  so used to not taking risks because of scarcity   that's not even real, the scarcity that we're sold  is not real because we actually do, we live in a   very fractured and imbalanced culture but we also  live in a very benevolent universe and and planet,   and so you know, learn to step out and trust  taking the risks because when we don't take   the risks we stay smaller than we  were ever meant to be, and when you actually   shine your light brighter, when you show people  like nope, I'm not available for that, there's a   reason there's delete, there's a reason there's a  block, this is the energy I'm putting out   and I want everyone who wants to be here to feel  that energy, you show other people that sovereignty,   you share that light with other people and it  allows other people to shine their light that way   as well and we get bigger and bolder, and this is  how we do create really fractured systems together.

Alexis: 1:14:45

Yeah and that is a wonderful place to end and it has been such a joy to chat to you, honestly, it's been   fabulous. If people want to find you on  social media, or indeed not on social media,   where can they find you?

Lori: 1:15:01

Oh Alexis thank you so much, I've very much enjoyed this conversation, I'm very grateful that you've had me on and the  easiest way to actually get in touch with me is my   website which is TheRawAndWildHearts.com, it has all  of my offerings, it has lots of free offerings but   I love my social media too do not get me wrong,  I do love sharing on there and I will be back   this is just a temporary shift which  is what I needed for myself and my alignment,   but my social media is the Raw And Wild Hearts,  my YouTube is the Raw And Wild Hearts, Instagram,   it's just the moniker The Raw and Wild  Hearts because this is a raw and wild ride!

Alexis: 1:15:43

Very good, I will put of course all of the links in  the show notes so people can find you super easily.   This has been, like I say, just  so, it's so lovely to talk to you,   thank you so much for being here. Lori: Yes thank you so much Alexis, have such a beautiful day.

Hawke: 1:15:59

If you want more regular reminders to find your  own way to use social media, follow Alexis on   your social platform of choice, all the links will  be in the show notes. Until next time, be a human.